Can I Stop the Divorce?
First, a short (and
brutal) answer to the question. The answer is No. In almost every state,
you cannot stop a divorce by yourself if your spouse is determined to get
one. You can slow down the divorce. You can make
it hurt more. You can make it
more. But the nature of no-fault divorce in most states is that a spouse
who's absolutely determined to divorce can make it happen even over his
or her spouse's objections.
So what choices do
you have? You have the informal power of persuasion. And precisely because
you can slow down the divorce, you can make it more painful,
and you can make it more expensive, you may have more options than
Divorce has all kinds
of disadvantages, so it's not to be entered
into lightly. The key is that you do have
to divorce, alternatives that in many cases may respond to your real
needs better than a divorce would.