Newbie Welcome (About HEO and about us)

[Dee]

Can someone tell me how to hide my e-mail I did selcet to keep it hidden when I registerd and now for some reason its showing up in my profile. Thanks

[m_t]

TTR is correct. You will see your email when you look at your profile. Other members cannot, though.

[Dee]

You are both right Thanks. Sorry I am not having a good day today. Feel kinda sick and with everything thats going on with my marriage it just makes me feel extra fragile at the moment.

[mimilili2]

Hi all. I"m a newbee, going thru divorce after 30 yr marriage.....I'm in the hole!

[starryeyed]

Hello all - I am a newbie here. Divorce was recently finalized after almost 20 years of marriage. It has been one heck of a ride so far - and, the crud is just not over yet  I just found this site today, will share more as I become familiar and more comfortable. Thanks in advance for the support I know I will find here!

[twhite]

Hi.  I found this site by chance so I am hoping for some help through what seems to be developing into a very difficult time.  I have been married 12 years.  Two children 6 and 12.  My husband just told me on Sunday that he no longer wants to be married.  I am so confused, hurt, and angry.  I found a text message on his phone and once i saw that he made his declaration.  The confusing part is just 5 WHOLE MINUTES BEFORE I SAW THE TEXT we were laughing and talking about what we were going to sell at our yard sale.  We were planning to move. This hit me like a brick.  We had been seperated before for 18 months.  We had been back together for 2.5 years when this happened.  The hard part is my daughter(12) had a HORRIBLE time during the first seperation and we promised her we would never do it to her again and now here we are becuz he does not want to be held accountable for his actions.  he is still in the home and walking around like all is well.  He sleeps on the couch and i spend my time in the bedroom.  I told my daughter that i have been having bad headaches that is why im in the bed all the time.  i am just in a really bad place right now and i am really trying to be still and be quiet.

[Pamela70]

Hello everyone...

I have been divorced for 5 years and am going through a hard time right now...specifically with just being lonely.  I am here because I know that I am not the only one out there that feels this way.  I have a strong faith and am just trying to hang on right now. 

[StaciebigD]

Hello, My name is Stacie. I live in Arkansas but, I am going through a divorce in Alabama. My soon to be ex filed there before I could file here. Well, he is suing me for custody of our two daughters ages 6 and 10. He stated that I did nothing to care for them , that he did all the cooking cleaning and daily care for the kids. Which is a total lie. I was a stay at home mom and that is all I did all day everyday.
anyway, Our court date is this Thursday. I am very nervous about it. I found this forum and Thought I would join.
Hope to talk to you all soon.

Stacie

[CaptainQwark]

Hello everyone. I just filed for divorce this week after years of emotional, verbal, and occasionally physical abuse by my wife. It unfortunately appears that we're going to be stuck in the position of living together for financial reasons until we can sell the house even after the divorce is finalized.

[eve]

Hello to everyone. I'm finally going to do this, I simply must get the ball rolling in regards to my divorce!! I've been separated since 1997 in which at that time I had to have my husband of 20 yrs removed from our home due to continuous physical and verbal abuse.
My biggest challenge is that we were married in one state, lived 18 yrs in another, separated in another and we now live in two different states. HELP!!! How do I begin?

[Lucia]

Hi.  I am new to this site but have been ?lurking? for over a year.   I have been married for 15 years( my first-his 5th!) and have thought about a divorce for about 5 years.  We don?t have children.  I was 37 and in love and ignored the warning signs.  Then came the drinking, physical and verbal abuse, lying, cheating, emotional infidelity.  He even lied about how many times he had been married and how many children he had.  I found this out years after we married.
 Things had not been going well for a long time.  Now, after I told him I wanted a divorce, I have found out that he has been in love with someone else (he kept saying she was just a friend) for 9 of those years. You put up with a lot in marriage and go through a lot for the sake of the marriage.  And then this???
I finally joined this group to respond to someone?s asking about happiness.  I have good, bad and great days.  On my bad days I feel tremendous anger-I feel stupid for not having seen it/ him for what it/he was.  I am bitter for wasting years of my life to the husk of a marriage.
On my good days I feel that I am on the right path, and am making headway.  I deal with the things at hand-the processes.  I know only time will help heal my wounded soul and spirit.
On my great days, I feel I am on the brink of a wonderful adventure, having found this great thing that I had forgotten I had-that is ME! I look ahead, knowing I am living more genuinely.  It?s scary also.
 I have spent a lot of time reading about divorce, mediation, pro se divorce.  Today I met with an atty.  And got enough information so now I feel I am ready to do this thing-start to finish. 

[saywhat]

Hello everyone....i am a married woman ( with one divorce behind me ), and i am here because this relationship is in serious jeapordy....and i am considering a divorce.......

I forgot to introduce myself first

[hopeful]

I just joined.  Mainly becasue I am having to face the lonliness that comes with divorce.  No matter what distractions take me away from the lonliness:  work, friends, my daughter's cat which I just inherited, I still come home alone.  It hurts.  No matter what I do, it still hurts.

[cleanslate]

   Just two months into a separation...my anniversary is coming up and not sure how to handle it.  I have three kids - 7,9, and 12.  I have been married for almost 17 years.  Going to a psychologist to see where my heart is and if there is any chance to reconcile, if that is something I even want to do.  Will be "lurking" about, checking out people and their own stories.  Because, while I seem to be adjusting well to this separation, I am not sure if it isn't just "denial" or if I really am ok with being a single mom.  We can still do "family" events, but please don't ask me to look at him... I can't seem to do it.  So glad to have found this website for information.  Hope being here is ok, even though I am not divorced...right now, not sure where to go for help...

[Myndgate]

I just joined because I can't just cry everyday. I need to learn to move on and be happy again.
So here's my story:
Me and my best friend, lover, and soulmate were together for 13 years. We got married four months ago. Now he tells me he is in love with someone else and left me. I have friends and family around who are so supportive and love me, yet when I am alone at home-especially at night I just don't think I can take the pain. We did everything together for 13 years - cooking, shopping, working on cars, house, I mean everything - because we enjoyed each others company. He said he wanted to grow old together. How can someone change their mind so quickly? I know there were signs, but I trusted him and loved him and would do anything to save our relationship - but I never got the chance - blindsided.
Thanks for listening.