Alimonyh

[pjwnla]

In the state of ALabama if an Alimony payment is due to the spouse on the 1st and you mail it before the first and it is sent restricted deliver (Meaniung only she can sign for it) and it runs late or she isn't there when it comes, can I be held in contempt? My ex wife continually calls if she doesn'[t get hr check write on the 1st and my new wife or puts up other people calling us that state she owes them money and is relyingon  her check getting ther the first to pay them money she owes. This has nothing to do with us. She follows us or has other people follow us, she has other people call my new wife at work and cuss her out and her health is not that well and all this needs to stop. She has given out our non-pub number to everyone that calls for her and threatens us if she doesn't ge her money on the 1st. SHe has been instructed numerous time to stop. The sheriff came out tonight to take another report and listen to the tape of the phoner call we just got. She used the granddaughter of her friend to call us an d do all the threats etc. I really think they hav e talked this girl into somethng she has no idea how much trouble she can get into. Thanks for listening

[Lee Borden]

Permission to speak freely?

It's a cliche, but true, that there's a razor-thin line between love and hate. It sounds as if your Ex is still trying to keep her relationship with you alive. If she can't have a close, loving relationship, she'll take a rancorous, angry, hate-filled relationship. And your endlessly speculating about her motives, tricks, and tactics is in all likelihood making the problem worse.

If you like the conflict too, your strategy would be to hire a lawyer and file to change the decree to address each of the points you've complained about. If you don't, if you really want to stop fighting, use a "disengage" strategy. Mall the check (via ordinary mail) on the 20th, change your private number and don't give it to her, or keep the same number and screen it with an answering machine. Comply scrupulously with the decree and seek to avoid any behaviors that would increase the need to communcate with your Ex.