Sharing an experience

[Grace48]

I had a girlfriend call me this weekend and say she had a run in with my ex's family. They live way off the beaten path in the country and she happened to have a flat tire right in front of my ex's parents. Since the ex is living place to place in a camper, that is home base for him too. She said that my ex FIL was out behind the house with the pecan cracking machine (yep, this is in the country lol) holding the baby my ex had as a product of his affair. My ex BIL (he is unable to walk with MS) was in the house watching TV and my ex MIL was in the bed (depression).  My friend took the baby, since my ex FIL was struggling with him and the machine and went inside to use the phone.  Agter waiting a while, my ex SIL and my ex's new wife came in from going to get something to eat. My FIL introduced my friend to the new wife, but never introduced the new wife. The new wife  and I share the same first name, and being as the whole affair thing they are trying to leave things unspoken. My friend was really shaken up by the experience. She remembered several years ago when my BIL and MIL were well and we had all shared a Thanksgiving together. She was shaken up about holding the baby she had never seen and that did not resemble my ex or our children (my son could have come right out of his mouth he looks so much like him and my daughter as well). And it felt so weird to her to be in that spot. I found myself equally upset by the retelling of a piece of an everyday afternoon that could have been my life. Wierd, huh? Brought all the betrayal and sadness back. I don't know why. Just thought I'd share.

[teddybear]

Ok, you listened to what she had to say, so chalk that one up to experience.  You do not need to hear anything about his life in any respect.  Do not subject yourself to such phooey, it will only bring back memories and there is no real need for that.  I had found myself wanting to know salacious gossip about my ex at one time.  Now, I make it a point not to think of him, period.  Unfortunately we still have unfinished financial business with the court that he is dragging his feet about . . . after that though, he but chaff in the wind.

[chill]

you are looking at this all wrong.lol

consider yourself very lucky, it could be you taking care of all these people, living a doomed life. Where as now you can be who you want to be.  Not saying the pain and the sorrow didn't hurt, nor the way things went down, however you have come out of it alive, whereas they sound like they are just existing.  Hold your head up high!

[slugbait]

Yeah, coulda been you out there, crackin' pecans !

[Wolfy]

...or churnin' butter or something.   

[christineseip]

you're not living with the clampetts (before they made it big), so count your blessings, woman!

[Grace48]

LOL. True enough. ha ha  That is what it amounts to. It is always funny how your emotions run away with you. My MIL is the one who pulled out all the stops to get both her sons at home with her, even at the cost of encouraging them to divorce. Which backfired on her with my ex as he felt it gave him card blanche to cheat and it be ok with her. Now she does have both sons home and she can't enjoy it because she is depressed and drugged. "Be careful what you wish for or you just might get it." She always wanted to raise my kids and now she sees them less than ever and doesn't even get out of the bed for the one living with her. Yep, much happier in my new house in the suburbs and with my career. Oh, and I have friends and a life. That is about all those people have is what we saw there. I have a lot to be thankful for, not just for what I have, but what I don't.