Advice please

[dhbates]

I have been with my wife for 7 years but married to her for the last 2 years. My wife wants to move out she has not said divorce yet but her actions do not fit her words. She has already checked into apartments and started a new bank account. So my situation is very dark. She sleeps in another room and we hardly talk to each other. I am hurting something awful and had to get medication so I can sleep. This has been going on for 3 weeks and I have lost 18 pounds because i can't eat. Here is my concern about her and what happen. She and a coworker went on travel together. I never thought nothing of the two being an item. Still don't really know if they are so it could be a emotional affair. The first night she got to their motel we usually call each other and let each other know we are safe. Well she forgot to call until after midnight. She said she forgot and had to many beers. We don't drink at home so this is strange for her. Plus she has a cell phone that is attached to her. I said you could have called me she said it was loud where they were. I said you could have step outside she said nothing. She did this every night that week and I gave her grief for it. When she got back she was very far off and very rejecting. Later in the week I discovered they had a private or secret email address and had been email each other about how they could leave their spouses. The problem here is he is one of her bosses and I work at the same company. I would like to tell security or HR but then I believe everybody would be fired. I was wondering if I have a possible lawsuit for my advanatage. I could put the email on this page for someone to read but am afraid they might see it so I will just put part of it here.

"I hope you are Okay. Please let me know what happens for you tonight if anything. I am worried for you to. I will be here for you and do anything I can to help. If you reply to this email send it to my work email or at least an email so I will know to check yahoo. I am thinking about you. Be strong, we will make it."

This man is divorcing his wife of 28 years to help my wife leave me. I don't stand a chance and I am breaking down about her and my job. What can I do? Please help with good advice.

[Lee Borden]

You don't have a legal problem. You need to vent, and that's fine. Spend some time on HEO at http://divorceinfo.com/heo/index.php/board,1.0.html. You'll find a rich community of people who will give you a great big 'ole cyber hug and help you keep your sanity.

[dhbates]

Thanks Lee I tried to call you this afternoon but you were out. This site is good on the general question side I have recieved very kind thoughts and it does make things better. One question I have is should I wait till she leaves the house before I file for divorce or should I go ahead now. I feel that since she is still here and things are calm I should see how things go and stay out of her hair.

[Lee Borden]

Then I have an easy answer for you. You should wait. When it's time to file for divorce, there will be no doubt in your mind. Until then, steer clear of people like me.