What to ask for

freetobeme

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What to ask for

« on: September 11, 2007, 01:18:11 AM »

Hi folks,
Just getting started in the process and wondering if I'm forgetting anything obvious to ask for...
My issues I'm bringing to my lawyer are:
* Spousal support and the amount of it (I am disabled and cannot work and I have no SSI money. I was denied and am in a long appeal process.)
* Child support and custody arrangements. (Don't want him drinking 24 hrs B$ he's with kids or while he's with them. Don't want his alcohol (or ****) in the house with the kids visiting him.
* Division of property, including airline and other reward miles
* my claim to his retirement pension
* life insurance : will he still pay for it since our kids are beneficiaries and he's be sunk without $$ to pay for their care.
* living arrangements: Will I get to stay in rented house with kids till school year ends? he says we can't afford that while he rents a studio or 1 bdrm. elsewhere, BUT I'm convinced he has more money stashed that I don't know about. He plays the stock market and hides his transactions. he has several thousand in individual savings accounts and over $50k in a TSA. He also grosses 115, 000/year. He keeps saying we have no money. I think it's a real damned mystery as to where all the money is going if we realy don't have any!


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Wolfy

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Re: What to ask for

« Reply #1 on: September 11, 2007, 10:22:31 PM »

How about him providing health insurance for you and the kids?


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freetobeme

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Re: What to ask for

« Reply #2 on: September 12, 2007, 12:33:39 PM »

Oh, yes Wolfy. That is why I want the Legal Separation, not divorce. I will stay on the health insurance. The kids would still be covered, no matter what.
Thanks.


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Lee Borden

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Re: What to ask for

« Reply #3 on: September 13, 2007, 06:53:01 AM »

Asking us what you should ask for in a divorce is a bit like my asking you what I should buy at the grocery store. You don't know what foods i like, what's available, or how much food I need. I would suggest that you do more research and then ask a more specific question. You may find then that you get much more useful feedback.


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freetobeme

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Re: What to ask for

« Reply #4 on: September 13, 2007, 11:16:44 AM »

Well, I did make a short list of my biggest concerns. That's whay I asked if there was something obvious I forgot.
It's okay. I'm figuring it out as I go along though.


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