Advice/input needed

I posted this over on the Heo board and it was suggested that I try to get Lee's input..if he can help me...
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Last night(Fri. 6/15) I got a phone call that my Stbx was fired from his job then immediately arrested on the spot on Wed (6/13). Here he was involved in stealing merchandise from his employer then having the stuff fenced over E-bay by some woman. There were 9 involved that were fired and of that 9, 5 were arrested including my Stbx.

I don't know what to do other than get ahold of my attorney first thing Mon. morning and inform him of what is happening. I called a friend of mine that is a State Trooper to find out exactly what kind of charges he may be facing and from what he could tell me....this is really bad. He is with a different barracks and some of his men have been pulled to go help out with this investigation and the dollar amount as of right now is staggering. The stuff that has been recovered from the searches on these peoples places has filled a tractor trailer and it is still ongoing....more search warrents are pending. I guess this has been going on for years so who knows how far this will go but I heard his employer is prosecuting this to the furtherest extent of the law.

All I can say is good...he deserves it...his choices, his actions...his consequences but the ones that will suffer the most is my kids and myself. At least now I have grounds to get full physical custody of my kids...they wouldn't do it 2 years ago when I petitioned the court...I couldn't use her(the whore's) background against him to get full custody. She is a convicted drug dealer...her 2 kids are drug addicts...her daughter's herion addiction is what grounds she used to get custody of her grand daughter after she was born over a year ago. They, my stbx and her have been raising the baby when her daughter isn't fit, which I hear is quite often. She comes and goes constantly. This is the enviornment that he wanted his children in and I have fought tooth and nail for 2 years to keep my children away from that bitch and her kids. It's his choices how he wants to live....but my god..it won't be my kids' consequences...no way-no how and now this!!!!!!

Without a job(his) I instantly lose the child support and spousal support I so desperately rely on along with the health insurance coverage. Will he be able to receive unemployment benefits being he was fired for theft?? Can a standing child support/spousal support order be attached to unemployment checks???What do I do about his 2 retirement plans? Can they be frozen that he can't draw out the portion of money that is due me??? Can I have his checking/savings accounts frozen for child support that my kids are taken care of first instead of his whore and her kids that he is helping to support? God what do I do?? Any advice would be greatly appreciated.

The bastard didn't even have the balls to tell me himself...I had to hear it from his coworkers and my kids were right there with me. They are as stunned/shocked/sickened as I am. What haven't I asked that I'm not thinking of to protect my kids and I....my head is spinning, I didn't sleep a wink last night and trying to concentrate at work today was a joke.
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If anyone can offer suggestions that could help me....please help, good replies, bad replies, I don't care..I just don't know what to do and how to handle this. Thanks........Sue

Quick background...married 20 yrs.....have 2 teenage kids.... abandoned by him 2 yrs. ago. He drained what was in the bank accounts..leaving me with no funds to survive on....all the debt was left on my shoulders to bare..I've endured best I could but ended up facing homelessness or moving in with the guy I was seeing...moved in with him....mistake..trapped...now this. There much, much more to this story...but it would be way to long of a read if I posted.